Who are you to judge?

Judgment, bias, prejudice, ignorance, racism, sexism. All of these have been present in human kind since the beginning of time. It makes sense when you think about it. As human beings, as individuals, we each have a set of core values or beliefs. Depending on how strongly we feel about them, we are quick to assume or believe that people who hold values or beliefs different than ours are wrong. Isn’t that crazy!!! This is something I was aware of, but didn’t fully understand the gravity of until starting my training as a counselor and the 2016 election.

We are so quick to disregard the opinions of those different from us or even write off individuals or groups as a whole simply based off the very few interactions or very few things we know about them. How sad is that?

America is great. It really is. We could focus on all the things wrong with it, but I’m talking about the DIVERSITY that America has. For years immigrants have come to America and their cultures and religions have all managed to enmesh themselves into what we call the United States of America. All of these people of various backgrounds worked together to make America what it is today. Without the diversity, America would not have progressed at all.

Can you imagine if we lived in a world where everyone was the exact same?! That would be so boring! We wouldn’t have anything to learn from each other because we would all be EXACTLY THE SAME!

And yet here we are, in 2016, a year and age where if you don’t know information about something you can Google it with the click of a button, or better yet, just by asking Siri! We don’t have an excuse to be judgmental anymore. We need to educate ourselves on others and their backgrounds before we assume the worst about them.

A person is not defined by their actions. You don’t know their background, where they come from, why they do what they do. So until you try to learn that about them,you are in no position to place a judgment on who they are as a person.

Remember that the next time you judge someone before taking the time to actually learn about who they are as an individual.

EDIT: After rereading my post I realized I have a tone of judgement against people who are judgmental. So as a personal goal I will focus on understanding why a person may be judgmental.

The most interesting thing about counseling is that you may have a client walk in and somewhere down the line you find out they are a rapist or a child molestor. Yet, as a professional counselor, you have to remain genuine, empathetic and show unconditional positive regard for the individual client  because at the end of the day that’s who they are: an individual.

The world would be an even more beautiful place if we were all able to treat each other as individuals, not as labels that fit into a certain category and are alike everyone else in that category.



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